Your article on the “5 ‘languages’ by means of which individuals talk tenderness, affection and dedication to their accomplice” is fascinating, however sadly takes no account of time (Can figuring out your ‘love language’ remodel your relationship?, 15 July).
I learn it, as I’m positive others can have, and put my very own relationship below the microscope. And I’m pleased to reminisce that in a 56-year relationship, the 5 “languages” – acts of service, phrases of affirmation, bodily contact, high quality time and giving presents – have been evident, typically in a shifting cycle, every with its personal tempo. Nevertheless, time and dementia have robbed us. As my husband’s carer, my day by day life is an act of service that lasts 24 hours. And I do really feel like a dad or mum. However it’s an act of affection.
From a person whose life was phrases and languages, there are few phrases of affirmation now. Bodily contact is completely different. Presents have been given, however that’s prior to now. Every single day is high quality time.
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